1. Child Middleman for Parent’s Communication

    Q: My parents got divorced a few months ago, and our family life has been a mess ever since. When they first separated, my mom started communicating parenting logistics to my dad through me. I didn’t mind at first because it meant they wouldn’t fight, but then my dad started doing the same. It grew into constantly relaying arguments between them and all the negativity drove me crazy. A few day…Read More

  2. Unwelcome In-law Opinions

    Q: I am a stay at home mom and my eight-year-old son, Sammy, has some behavioral issues. He gets upset very easily and lashes out unpredictably. Through a lot of work, and therapy, he has gotten much better. My wife and I have learned that when he has a meltdown he is too upset to use his words. When we help him to explain his feelings, he calms down. My mother-in-law has always hated the way that…Read More

  3. Back to School Angst

    Q: I currently have three adolescents at home who have been cooped up for months. They’ve been fighting more than usual because they’ve been on top of each other ALL THE TIME! Oddly my eldest, who is leaving for college very soon, has been particularly difficult lately. This is out of character for her, since she’s usually the peacemaker. Any advice?  A: Actually, what you’re describing i…Read More

  4. Reentry Into Society

    Adapting to life during a pandemic has been difficult for everyone, our community included. Yet for many, the Governor's July 1st order lifting the state of emergency, and with it all mask mandates and social distancing restrictions, has felt abrupt, and to some, even premature. Some of us are still very much in “bunker down” mode, while others of us are getting back to life largely as it was …Read More

  5. COVID under 12-years-old

    Q: School is ending, half our kids are now vaccinated!  Woot woot!! We are so grateful to see what we hope is the forever end of zoom school and kids being kids again. That said, we have children under 12 who aren’t vaccinated yet and I’m torn. Everyone wants to get back to normal and I get it. I know the risk is low for them, but it still makes me nervous the idea of having them play with ot…Read More

  6. Summer Vacation during COVID

    Q: Normally around this time of year, our family starts planning our summer vacation. Of course the kids haven’t been vaccinated yet (and may not until the fall) and I’m worried it’s not safe. The whole thing has the family split on what to do, I say skip it this year, but my husband and the kids are advocating for making plans. I don’t want everyone mad at me, but I’m not sure I can ben…Read More

  7. Navigating Back to School Backlash

    Q: Schools are beginning to reopen and I’m thrilled for my kids. A bunch of my friends on Facebook have very opposite feelings. I feel like I can’t speak freely.  The topic feels unavoidable. Everyone is talking about it and I don’t want to ruffle feathers.    A: These are interesting and challenging times indeed! Whether it be school, face masks, or politics, we are faced with responding…Read More

  8. Valentine’s Day COVID Edition

    A: My partner and I are struggling to find time alone together. We have two teens who never leave the house. No overnights at their friend’s houses, no parties past curfew, no 9 weeks of summer camp in the Catskills. Meanwhile we can’t go to the movies or restaurants. Valentines’ s Day? Yeah, right; lol.  We’ve been around each other 24/7 since the pandemic began and we are starting to gr…Read More

  9. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy

    Q: Every year I like to challenge myself with a New Year’s resolution. This year I’ve decided to tackle some long-standing emotional issues that continue to bother me. I’ve been in therapy a few times before, more than I’d really like to count, dealing with unfortunate things that happened in my childhood. It’s been helpful, somewhat, but it never feels fully resolved. I definitely don…Read More