Back-to-School Jitters: Tips for a Smooth Transition 

As summer winds down, the excitement and nervousness of heading back to school can be palpable in any home with children. At Kentlands Psychotherapy, we understand that this period can be a mix of enthusiasm and anxiety for both children and parents. Here are some expert tips from Dr. Jessica Stutzman, our Child Psychology Associate, to help your family navigate this transition smoothly:

Explore Feelings and Thoughts

Start by helping your child express their feelings and thoughts about going back to school. Once they share how they’re feeling, use open ended questions to help explore thoughts, such as, “What are you afraid may happen?” Discuss with your child that being nervous about going to school is very normal, and they are not alone in their feelings. For younger children, it can be helpful to read a book together (e.g. “Lena’s Shoes are Nervous,” “First Day Jitters”) to encourage conversations. You can also work with your child to write or draw their own “Back to School” story. 

Visit School and Form Positive Connections

Take advantage of back-to-school orientations and events to visit your child’s school. You can also take your child for a fun trip to school to play on the playground. Join your school’s parent organization to connect with other parents and set up playdates to help your child form connections with their peers. 

Establish Routines

Children thrive on structure and routine. In the weeks leading up to school, establish morning and evening routines. Some children may benefit from a visual chart to check off each task of their routine as they complete it. For younger children, you can also practice eating a packed school lunch from their lunchbox while at home. 

Make a Drop-Off Plan and Goodbye Ritual

Make a plan for the first day dropoff that includes a consistent goodbye ritual with your child. This ritual could be sweet (e.g., a hug and a kiss), silly (e.g., “See ya later, alligator!”), or fun (e.g. a unique handshake). Having a special routine your child can count on every day can be very reassuring. 

Connect with Back to School Resources

If you’re still concerned with your child’s anxiety about school, reach out and share your concerns with their teacher. You can also ask to meet with a member of student services, such as the school counselor or school psychologist, who can help with providing more individualized support for your child. 

It is normal for children to feel some level of separation anxiety, but if your child seems unusually distressed or if the anxiety persists beyond the first few weeks, it might be helpful to speak with a professional. Our child therapists and therapeutic parent coaches are here to support your family with tailored strategies that address individual concerns. 

Starting or returning to formal educational settings is a significant event for any child and a little preparation can go a long way. By incorporating these practices, you can help ensure that your child starts the school year with confidence and enthusiasm.