1. Navigating Back to School Backlash

    Q: Schools are beginning to reopen and I’m thrilled for my kids. A bunch of my friends on Facebook have very opposite feelings. I feel like I can’t speak freely.  The topic feels unavoidable. Everyone is talking about it and I don’t want to ruffle feathers.    A: These are interesting and challenging times indeed! Whether it be school, face masks, or politics, we are faced with responding…Read More

  2. Valentine’s Day COVID Edition

    A: My partner and I are struggling to find time alone together. We have two teens who never leave the house. No overnights at their friend’s houses, no parties past curfew, no 9 weeks of summer camp in the Catskills. Meanwhile we can’t go to the movies or restaurants. Valentines’ s Day? Yeah, right; lol.  We’ve been around each other 24/7 since the pandemic began and we are starting to gr…Read More

  3. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy

    Q: Every year I like to challenge myself with a New Year’s resolution. This year I’ve decided to tackle some long-standing emotional issues that continue to bother me. I’ve been in therapy a few times before, more than I’d really like to count, dealing with unfortunate things that happened in my childhood. It’s been helpful, somewhat, but it never feels fully resolved. I definitely don…Read More

  4. Co-Parenting

    Q: My ex drives me crazy. He looks for ways to disrupt my life and make things difficult for me. We have a custody arrangement but he constantly breaks rules and tries to renegotiate agreement details. It’s expensive to have my attorney involved at $400 an hour. Now he’s trying to change upcoming holidays. Honestly I’m exhausted by it. A: Unfortunately even with the best custody orders, ofte…Read More

  5. Dealing with In-Laws

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My in-laws just stayed with us for several days over the holidays. Truth be told I don’t like them very much. My father-in-law seems a bit full of himself and my mother-in-law can be very controlling and critical of me, my housekeeping, and my parenting. Now they want us to come down to their vacation home in Flor…Read More

  6. Rediscovering your holiday spirit

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Question: I’m having a hard time getting into the holiday spirit. Every year I’m so stressed. I seem to do all the shopping for my own family, and my husband’s family; as well as most of our kids gifts as well. Then there’s all the teachers gifts, the white elephant event at work. The cookie exchanges. The holi…Read More

  7. IBS and Dating

    Question: I’m single and dating, and I have IBS. I think telling a new guy is a third date topic. It’s embarrassing and it’s not “sexy,” so I like to put it off as long as possible. The problem is, it’s hard negotiating restaurant choices and choosing items that meet my dietary restrictions without sharing my condition before I’m ready. Him: “Want to try a piece of my [dairy and gl…Read More

  8. Wife Posting On Social Media

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife is constantly posting about our relationship on social media. Everything we do together ends up on Facebook or Instagram. I feel like I'm losing my privacy, and I'm uncomfortable with so much of our lives being online. How do I tell her I want her to stop, or at least cut back on her posts about our relation…Read More

  9. Needing Privacy From Your Spouse

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: I am a stay at home housewife. My husband recently started working from home and is now with me all the time. I feel like I lost my sense of privacy, the ability to have my own free time alone, and my husband is driving me crazy! What should I do? A: Sometimes feeling intruded upon or cramped when a spouse retires o…Read More

  10. Five Signs Someone May Be Lying To You

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader We’ve had a lot of questions about deception lately and how to tell when someone is being dishonest.  Here are a few strategies professionals use to tell fact from fiction. First, let’s look at body language and facial expressions. When someone is lying they may shift their weight causing a rocking motion or pace.…Read More