1. Homework Woes!

    Q: My child spends so much time on homework and has so little to show for it. He seems to take forever to get rolling with it, gets derailed with anything and everything, whines and complains about doing it, and sometimes even when he does his homework thoroughly and well, he might not turn it in. What the heck?! A: You may be surprised at how common what you’re describing can be. Your child mig…Read More

  2. Internal Family Systems’ Six-Step Process

    IFS founder, Dr. Richard Schwartz, believes that we all have several parts living within us that fulfill both healthy and unhealthy roles. Life events or trauma, however, can force us out of those healthy roles into extreme roles. The goal of IFS therapy is to help clients to achieve balance within their internal system and to differentiate and elevate the core healthy self so it can be an effect…Read More

  3. Can This Relationship Be Saved?

    Q: These past few years have taken a toll on my marriage. Being home with my family has been really stressful. When I tried to talk to my husband about how this extra stress is affecting our relationship he was frustrated with me. I decided not to bring it up anymore. Now I feel like there is nothing between us. He is always working or on his phone. I can’t bear it anymore. I’m so sad and I do…Read More

  4. The Bedwetting Secret

    Q: My son is 10-years-old and thanks to COVID has never had an overnight or a sleepover. We haven’t even visited family in over 3 years! But we’re all vaccinated now and excited to visit my parents in Wisconsin over spring break. Problem is that our son is still wetting the bed. He’s self-conscious about it and wants to keep it private, hoping I can help him keep it on the down low during th…Read More

  5. Grief During The Holidays

    Q: The holiday season has always been a grand affair at my house with family reunion meals, festive decorations, and endless eggnog. My family always took it very seriously, especially my dad who dressed up as Santa and partied the hardest. Unfortunately, my father passed away in February with COVID. Now, I’m dreading the holiday season and my house feels so heavy. I can’t even bring myself to…Read More

  6. Back to School Angst

    Q: I currently have three adolescents at home who have been cooped up for months. They’ve been fighting more than usual because they’ve been on top of each other ALL THE TIME! Oddly my eldest, who is leaving for college very soon, has been particularly difficult lately. This is out of character for her, since she’s usually the peacemaker. Any advice?  A: Actually, what you’re describing i…Read More

  7. Struggles with Kindergarten Remote Learning

    Q: Last spring my daughter was in kindergarten when COVID hit. Her teacher was accessible and did her best to provide meaningful online learning, but mostly it was a stressful, difficult, emotionally draining experience. There was lots of tantruming, “stomach aches,” melting off of chairs, and other forms of non-cooperation. I am dreading this September; imagining a similar scenario with first…Read More

  8. Is your teen locked behind a mask of COVID-19 indifference? Five tips to help you get behind the mask.

    We are all moving from one coping strategy to another as we settle into the long grind of dealing with the implications of COVID-19. One minute we’re laughing at dark humor, the next we’re crying, or snapping at our spouse. Our teens are doing the same thing, but they’re teens, so we may not recognize their process. Instead of watching hours on end of news coverage about the virus, they may …Read More

  9. Dealing with In-Laws

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My in-laws just stayed with us for several days over the holidays. Truth be told I don’t like them very much. My father-in-law seems a bit full of himself and my mother-in-law can be very controlling and critical of me, my housekeeping, and my parenting. Now they want us to come down to their vacation home in Flor…Read More

  10. Thanksgiving plans with girlfriend verses parents

    Question: Our son Jack is a freshman at the University of Chicago. He’s our only child and we are very proud of him. He seems to be adjusting well to college. In fact, so well that he already has a girlfriend! Unfortunately he just texted his dad and I that he plans to go to her house for Thanksgiving. We are so disappointed. Thanksgiving would have been our first chance to see him again since h…Read More