Divorce Decision Making
Child Middleman for Parent’s Communication
Q: My parents got divorced a few months ago, and our family life has been a mess ever since. When they first separated, my mom started communicating parenting logistics to my dad through me. I didn’t mind at first because it meant they wouldn’t fight, but then my dad started doing the same. It grew…
Can This Relationship Be Saved?
Q: These past few years have taken a toll on my marriage. Being home with my family has been really stressful. When I tried to talk to my husband about how this extra stress was affecting our relationship, he was frustrated with me. I decided not to bring it up anymore. Now, I feel like…
Needing Privacy From Your Spouse
Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: I am a stay at home housewife. My husband recently started working from home and is now with me all the time. I feel like I lost my sense of privacy, the ability to have my own free time alone, and my…
Five Signs Someone May Be Lying To You
Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader We’ve had a lot of questions about deception lately and how to tell when someone is being dishonest. Here are a few strategies professionals use to tell fact from fiction. First, let’s look at body language and facial expressions. When someone is lying…
How to Have a Healthy Timeout
Question: Whenever I get into a heated argument with my husband he says he “can’t talk about it anymore“ or “I’m impossible.” Sometimes he storms out of the house and drives away. It makes me crazy. I text him asking where he is and when he’s coming back. He says I need to give him…
Is It Possible To Save a Marriage After an Affair?
Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life Q: Last month I learned of my spouse’s long-term affair. It’s over now and she’s extremely remorseful. What in your experience, is a reasonable outcome for me to expect when I’m on the other side of this? Acceptance but continued hurt from…
Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?
Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can’t make it work. Why should they carry the burden…
8 Common Financial Mistakes Made During Divorce
No one imagines they will someday get divorced and when that day comes people hope it can be short, civil, and fair. Unfortunately since during a divorce a family’s assets must be untangling from one household and reconfigured into two; short, civil, and fair often quickly deteriorates into extended, contentious, and seemly inequitable. These financial decisions…
Co-Parenting With Your Ex
Co-parenting requires you to be empathetic and patient with your ex, which is easier said than done. Break ups are fraught with emotion, even when you can choose to never see your ex again. When children are involved, you have to accept that you will have to work with your ex to ensure that your…

