1. Child Middleman for Parent’s Communication

    Q: My parents got divorced a few months ago, and our family life has been a mess ever since. When they first separated, my mom started communicating parenting logistics to my dad through me. I didn’t mind at first because it meant they wouldn’t fight, but then my dad started doing the same. It grew into constantly relaying arguments between them and all the negativity drove me crazy. A few day…Read More

  2. Can This Relationship Be Saved?

    Q: These past few years have taken a toll on my marriage. Being home with my family has been really stressful. When I tried to talk to my husband about how this extra stress is affecting our relationship he was frustrated with me. I decided not to bring it up anymore. Now I feel like there is nothing between us. He is always working or on his phone. I can’t bear it anymore. I’m so sad and I do…Read More

  3. Wife Posting On Social Media

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife is constantly posting about our relationship on social media. Everything we do together ends up on Facebook or Instagram. I feel like I'm losing my privacy, and I'm uncomfortable with so much of our lives being online. How do I tell her I want her to stop, or at least cut back on her posts about our relation…Read More

  4. Needing Privacy From Your Spouse

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: I am a stay at home housewife. My husband recently started working from home and is now with me all the time. I feel like I lost my sense of privacy, the ability to have my own free time alone, and my husband is driving me crazy! What should I do? A: Sometimes feeling intruded upon or cramped when a spouse retires o…Read More

  5. Five Signs Someone May Be Lying To You

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader We’ve had a lot of questions about deception lately and how to tell when someone is being dishonest.  Here are a few strategies professionals use to tell fact from fiction. First, let’s look at body language and facial expressions. When someone is lying they may shift their weight causing a rocking motion or pace.…Read More

  6. How to Have a Healthy Timeout

    Question: Whenever I get into a heated argument with my husband he says he “can’t talk about it anymore“ or “I’m impossible.” Sometimes he storms out of the house and drives away. It makes me crazy. I text him asking where he is and when he’s coming back. He says I need to give him space to cool down. How can I get him to stop this? Answer: Breaks, or timeouts, can be healthy during …Read More

  7. Is It Possible To Save a Marriage After an Affair?

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life  Q: Last month I learned of my spouse’s long-term affair. It's over now and she's extremely remorseful. What in your experience, is a reasonable outcome for me to expect when I'm on the other side of this? Acceptance but continued hurt from it?  Something that we can expect to always have to deal with on some l…Read More

  8. Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?

    Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can't make it work. Why should they carry the burden that divorce causes? I've read about “nesting” (where the children remain in the family home…Read More

  9. What Can A Divorce Coach Do For Me?

    Q: I’m in the middle of a difficult divorce. My attorney calls it “high conflict.” I’m six months into this and still have a long way to go. I feel my family and friends are exhausted hearing about it. My attorney suggested a divorce coach. What can a divorce coach do for me that I’m not already getting from my therapist and attorney? A: We’re so glad you asked. Divorce Coaching is a p…Read More

  10. 8 Common Financial Mistakes Made During Divorce

    No one imagines they will someday get divorced and when that day comes people hope it can be short, civil, and fair. Unfortunately since during a divorce a family's assets must be untangling from one household and reconfigured into two; short, civil, and fair often quickly deteriorates into extended, contentious, and seemly inequitable.  These financial decisions are complicated and can be color…Read More