1. Too Friendly Co-Worker: Should I Be Concerned?

    Q: I think my husbands coworker is flirting with him. I try to point this out to him but he denies there is a problem. How can I convince him that he should be concerned? A: It can be difficult to convince someone of something if they are not open to the idea. In this case, it might be helpful to have a calm and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. Try to listen to his perspe…Read More

  2. Child Middleman for Parent’s Communication

    Q: My parents got divorced a few months ago, and our family life has been a mess ever since. When they first separated, my mom started communicating parenting logistics to my dad through me. I didn’t mind at first because it meant they wouldn’t fight, but then my dad started doing the same. It grew into constantly relaying arguments between them and all the negativity drove me crazy. A few day…Read More

  3. Unwelcome In-law Opinions

    Q: I am a stay at home mom and my eight-year-old son, Sammy, has some behavioral issues. He gets upset very easily and lashes out unpredictably. Through a lot of work, and therapy, he has gotten much better. My wife and I have learned that when he has a meltdown he is too upset to use his words. When we help him to explain his feelings, he calms down. My mother-in-law has always hated the way that…Read More

  4. Can This Relationship Be Saved?

    Q: These past few years have taken a toll on my marriage. Being home with my family has been really stressful. When I tried to talk to my husband about how this extra stress is affecting our relationship he was frustrated with me. I decided not to bring it up anymore. Now I feel like there is nothing between us. He is always working or on his phone. I can’t bear it anymore. I’m so sad and I do…Read More

  5. Valentine’s Day COVID Edition

    A: My partner and I are struggling to find time alone together. We have two teens who never leave the house. No overnights at their friend’s houses, no parties past curfew, no 9 weeks of summer camp in the Catskills. Meanwhile we can’t go to the movies or restaurants. Valentines’ s Day? Yeah, right; lol.  We’ve been around each other 24/7 since the pandemic began and we are starting to gr…Read More

  6. Co-Parenting

    Q: My ex drives me crazy. He looks for ways to disrupt my life and make things difficult for me. We have a custody arrangement but he constantly breaks rules and tries to renegotiate agreement details. It’s expensive to have my attorney involved at $400 an hour. Now he’s trying to change upcoming holidays. Honestly I’m exhausted by it. A: Unfortunately even with the best custody orders, ofte…Read More

  7. How to Bring the Romance Back to Your Valentine’s Day

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Every year we receive several questions about Valentine’s Day. Many of them boil down to: “How can we bring back the zest to this holiday?” Here are three simple tips for making this Valentines Day a special one, no mater what you’re doing that day, or how much you’re spending, or whether you’ve been dating…Read More

  8. Dealing with In-Laws

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My in-laws just stayed with us for several days over the holidays. Truth be told I don’t like them very much. My father-in-law seems a bit full of himself and my mother-in-law can be very controlling and critical of me, my housekeeping, and my parenting. Now they want us to come down to their vacation home in Flor…Read More

  9. Gottman Relationship Checkup

    The Gottman Method Couples Therapy assessment process is based on over four decades of research with more than 3,000 couples. It includes the Gottman Relationship Checkup which was designed from Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory. Only a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) is authorized by the Gottman Institute to do the assessment. Angele Voegele is certified to offer t…Read More

  10. Wife Posting On Social Media

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife is constantly posting about our relationship on social media. Everything we do together ends up on Facebook or Instagram. I feel like I'm losing my privacy, and I'm uncomfortable with so much of our lives being online. How do I tell her I want her to stop, or at least cut back on her posts about our relation…Read More