Why EFT Might Be the Best for Infidelity Issues
Q: I’ve been persuaded that my wife and I need assistance discussing her feelings for another man. I’ve Googled therapists in our area and am admittedly overwhelmed by all the choices. How do I choose the right therapist to help us?
A: First, selecting a therapist with advanced training in working with couples is essential. This is not the time to work with someone designing the plane in mid-flight. When a partner’s feelings have grown for another, we can feel hurt, betrayed, angry, and fearful of abandonment. So, therapies that emphasize emotional connection and safety are essential in working through these feelings in a manner that feels safe for everyone.
As you research options, consider selecting an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. EFT focuses on identifying and repairing emotional disconnections and ruptures. It acknowledges that emotions are at the heart of most conflicts and aims to help couples express their feelings safely and openly, fostering a deeper understanding of each partner’s needs and desires and paving the way for more meaningful communication.
EFT is effective. Numerous studies have demonstrated how it improves relationship satisfaction and well-being, reduces conflicts, increases intimacy, and improves overall relationship quality. Its evidence-based approach provides a structured framework for therapists to guide couples toward lasting change.
EFT produces lasting results. Unlike some other forms of couples therapy that may offer short-term solutions, EFT strives for long-lasting transformation within the relationship. By addressing the root causes of issues and promoting secure emotional bonds, couples are better equipped to handle future challenges together. EFT provides partners with valuable communication skills they can continue using even after therapy.
So, while there are various approaches to couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy stands out as a superior choice due to its emphasis on emotional connection, proven effectiveness, and potential for lasting results. As you go through the process of vetting couples’ therapists, we highly recommend considering working with a qualified EFT therapist to help you and your partner work through these issues to build a stronger relationship.
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