1. Five Signs Someone May Be Lying To You

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader We’ve had a lot of questions about deception lately and how to tell when someone is being dishonest.  Here are a few strategies professionals use to tell fact from fiction. First, let’s look at body language and facial expressions. When someone is lying they may shift their weight causing a rocking motion or pace.…Read More

  2. How to Have a Healthy Timeout

    Question: Whenever I get into a heated argument with my husband he says he “can’t talk about it anymore“ or “I’m impossible.” Sometimes he storms out of the house and drives away. It makes me crazy. I text him asking where he is and when he’s coming back. He says I need to give him space to cool down. How can I get him to stop this? Answer: Breaks, or timeouts, can be healthy during …Read More

  3. Freaking out during social events

    People who have experienced traumatic or distressful situations are more likely to be triggered by certain events or social interactions. The familiar intense emotions and physical trauma can suddenly appear when you least expected. Johanna Koenig's, extensive knowledge about the Polyvagal Theory can provide a better understanding of these unanticipated trigger moments by teaching you ways to deal…Read More

  4. My Friend Seems Too Thin; I’m worried

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: I am worried that a friend of mine may be developing an eating disorder. She never eats during lunch anymore, she’s always tired, and she looks too thin. The whole situation seems a lot like To The Bone (on Netflix). I’m not sure how to handle this situation…should I go to our school counselor? Her parents? Sh…Read More

  5. My Wife’s Relationship with a Colleague is Too Close For Comfort

    Originally published in our advice column The Laudable Life in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife has struck up a friendship with a guy at work…she insists it’s completely innocent and yet I’m feeling uncomfortable with it. I have tried to explain this to her, but she brushes off my concerns as paranoia or suggests I’m being controlling or Victorian in my views on male/female relationships. I…Read More

  6. Social Anxiety Is Holding Me Back

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life Q: As the weather gets warmer and friends start to invite me out more often, I am feeling a rise in my social anxiety. I would like to be able to spend time out with my friends, but the pressure of excruciating self-consciousness is really getting to me. How can I manage my feelings and allow myself to enjoy time w…Read More

  7. Yikes! My Teen’s On Tinder!

    Originally published on our Lakelands Leader advice column the Laudable Life Q: I found my twenty-something son using a Tinder app on his phone?  Should I be worried?  Isn’t that a hook-up site?  He says “No” and that I “don’t understand.”  Can you enlighten me? A: Dear Tinder Parent, Tinder is a social media app for meeting people.  Users view profiles of people in their area.  …Read More

  8. Nobody Is Going to Want Our Stuff

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life Q: Over the last several years, three of my relatives have passed away leaving me their memorabilia and several pieces of antique furniture. My townhouse is now extremely cluttered and I feel like I’m suffocating. It breaks my heart to let these things go because of their sentimental value, but I don’t have the…Read More

  9. Writing a time capsule letter to explain your affair

    Have you been struggling to decide whether or not to tell your partner about a current or former affair? Are you convinced it's probably the right thing to do, but your afraid of the consequences? Have you come close to telling so many times, but in the end you just can't bring yourself to do it? If you are still considering the pros and cons of telling your partner about an infidelity, read here …Read More

  10. Why You Should Be Ready to Confess Your Affair When Asked

    Should you tell your partner about the affair you've had? If you ask a philosophy professor they will likely give you an ethical decision making theory like in this article from Psychology Today. But philosophers work in theory, they don't work with people in crisis. On the other hand, if you ask 100 couples therapists, "Should your client tell their partner about an infidelity or affair?" you mi…Read More