A good marriage takes a concerted effort from both partners. Love is a verb; you have to action to keep the spark alive. Here are our marriage counseling tips on how you can actively and positively love your partner and contribute to your marriage.

Show physical affection. When you make contact with your spouse, whether holding hands, hugging, or just a quick kiss before you leave for work, you are releasing oxytocin, otherwise known as the “love chemical.” Touching your partner deepens your bond, so make an effort to show affection every day.

Listen and actively seek understanding of your spouse. If you put effort into understanding their perspective, you will be able to work through arguments without damaging the relationship.

Take responsibility. You are half of your marriage, so put the work in, and don’t try to blame your spouse for all your problems. As they say, it takes two to tango.

Go on dates. Keep the spark alive by making special time for just the two of you. It will revitalize the love you have for each other, and remind you why you are together in the first place.

Take care of yourself. You cannot have a healthy marriage if you do not have a healthy relationship with yourself. It starts with you, so prioritize self-care so you can be the best partner for your spouse.

Stay present. When things are tough, it is easy to withdraw for self-protection. This only further alienates you from your partner. Show them your vulnerability and lean on them. This will strengthen your bond.

These tips will help deepen your marriage, but sometimes, that is still not enough. If you need marriage counseling in Gaithersburg, Kentlands Psychotherapy can help. Contact us today.