Q: When applying to colleges, my top dream school was always Tufts; I could envision myself being there and I began to fall in love with it even more, every day. However, I got rejected last weekend and I am going to attend my second choice, Lehigh. Although this was my second choice, I didn’t consider going here because I was infatuated with the idea of Tufts. How can I get emotionally psyched to go to Lehigh when my mind is still at Tufts?

A: You are not alone in these feelings right now- thousands of high school seniors have been rejected by their first-choice. Give yourself time to be bummed. Allow yourself to feel disappointed and frustrated. However, it’s important to limit this phase. Whatever it may be: a couple of hours, days, or a week to grieve, but after that, put it aside and move on. This will give you the space to get excited about Lehigh. Even though Tufts may have advantages that Lehigh doesn’t, try to look for unique qualities at Lehigh that you can get excited about. Although it may not feel like it right now, this change in plans could be a good thing for you. We don’t know what the future holds for us. Consider reaching out to the kids going to Lehigh. Be intentional with connecting with students who are obviously excited about attending the school. This enthusiasm can be contagious and will help lift your spirits! Remember that rejection is just a part of life and our ability to bounce back from it is what makes us resilient people.