Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

“To achieve a lasting, loving bond, we have to be able to tune in to our deepest needs and longings and translate them into clear signals that help our lovers respond to us. We have to be able to accept love and to reciprocate.”
– Dr Sue Johnson, co-creator of EFT

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is the most effective modality for learning to communicate explicitly with your partner. EFCT guides you down the most successful pathway for asking for forgiveness and for accepting it. Through the EFCT process, you will forge a strong, secure, and meaningful connection with your most important relationship.

When our relationship is in despair, and we argue about money, kids, sex, work, and household duties, we feel chaotic, desperate, overwhelmed, and alone. It feels like every time we turn to our partner in discussion, it ends in a disaster. If those who are most important to us walk away from conversations, say “Get over it,” or appear occupied with their devices, we feel hurt, anxious, and depressed. If this happens long enough, it triggers the feeling “my partner is not there for me when I need them.”

Perhaps our experience with our partner is different. We see them as “too needy”. It appears there is always something our partner is upset about. We feel like we are walking on eggshells. We feel criticized. Deep down, thinking “I can’t do anything right in this relationship.” When this continues, it becomes how we interact with each other daily. Once this negative cycle of communication and relationship disconnection takes hold, our most important relationship feels lonely and stressed. This is when most couples turn to therapy. We are looking to heal or determine if we can make this relationship safe again.

Here is what you can expect in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

You can expect your EFT therapist to quickly identify your negative communication cycle.
You can expect that your EFT therapist will provide a safe environment for each person to discuss the needs and desires of the relationship. You will learn how to turn towards each other and communicate this need clearly.
You can expect your EFT therapist to guide you through the rough terrain of past disappointments, hurts, and feelings of abandonment.
You will begin to experience the most important relationship in your life not as a place of loneliness and stress but as a secure and fulfilling home base.

Call us today to start building the relationship you need and desire.