Author Archives: matthewskelton

  1. How Effective “Time Outs” Could Save Your Marriage (or Job or Friendships)!

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    From Our Lakelands Leader Laudable Life Advice Column Q: My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, but when it comes to certain topics we seem to go from 0-60 in nothing flat, every time. Before we can get to the heart of the matter he's saying, "I can't talk with you about this right now." Or "You're just being irrational." Or even, "I'm tired (or I've had a long day at work), can we talk abo…Read More

  2. When Your Spouse Says They’re Not In Love with You Anymore

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    Originally Printed in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: Around Thanksgiving my wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and that she wanted a divorce.  I told her we needed to get through the holidays and I asked her to try to put it out of her mind until the New Year.  I hoped we could make the holidays special and she would forget about it. It didn't happen.…Read More

  3. When ADHD Makes Homework Time Hell

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    Q: I cannot get my child to focus on school work. I have tried helping him myself throughout the school year, but he is always distracted with something and cannot sit still for even five minutes. He was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m starting to think that label is taking over his school life and impact his motivation and confidence. How can I best support him and help him to learn to foc…Read More

  4. 6 Tips For When Your Spouse Won’t Go To Therapy With You

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    Q: As I look at the start of 2017, I want to see my marriage improve, but my husband doesn't seem to be willing to do much on his end.  He won't go to therapy and he says he's tired of "talking about it all the time."  What can I do on my own that might make things better?  Everything I seem to try gets resentful push-back.  What am I doing wrong? A: Of course it's impossible to say what if …Read More

  5. Stepping Back from Parenting Your College Student

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    Originally published in our advice column the Laudable Life in the Lakelands Leader Q: Our oldest child is leaving for University of Maryland next year.  She's excited, but I'm nervous.  I won’t be there to wake her up for her 8am classes and I won’t be there when she needs me.  What if she doesn’t like her roommate?  What if she gets sick?  And the idea of frat parties scares the hell …Read More

  6. My Husband Has Been Using The Ashley Madison Website

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    Originally published by The Lakelands Leader in our Laudable Life advice column. Q: Last night I found out my husband has been using the Ashley Madison website.  We’ve been married for nine years, happily I thought, and we have three kids.   I’m shocked, devastated, and confused.  I don’t know what to do, yet I feel an urgent need to do something.  I feel like my head is exploding.  He…Read More