Are you looking for a way to make a few aspects of your otherwise good relationship better?

Have you tried all the strategies that make sense but you’re still struggling?

Maybe you have spoken to friends and sought advice from websites, books, and videos yet the problems persist?

This is where couples counseling at Kentlands Psychotherapy can help. While it’s normal for all relationships to have their ups and downs, some areas may be too complex to fix at home.

Couples therapy focuses on teaching couples how to make their relationships more loving by increasing their marital friendship and emotional intimacy.  This is done by first understanding what behaviors and communication habits are putting the greatest strain on the relationship.  Goals are set together based on empirically grounded strategies developed by John Gottman (Sound Marital House), Sue Johnson (Emotion Focused Therapy), Harville Hendrix (Imago Therapy), and Dan Wile (Collaborative Couple Therapy). Effective marital therapy, also known as couples counseling or marriage counseling, can be a great way to rapidly increase your quality of life. If this is something you’re considering, I encourage you to read more.

Couples counseling, also called marital therapy, marital counseling. or marriage counseling, works best when both people are ready to work on making the relationship better, rather than trying to change each other. When working with a couple, it is the therapist’s job is to create an environment where you both feel safe to talk about the things you’re afraid to bring up at home. It is also up to the clinician to make it possible to discuss, in a productive manner, the areas that often lead to fights at home. As such, the focus in couples therapy is not simply to rehash last week’s or last month’s unresolved argument(s). Instead it is about working together to understand the patterns in your relationship that are not working. Our clinicians will also help you determine alternative ways to be with one another to make your relationship stronger and more loving.

We know it can be tricky to try to make one area better without disturbing other parts of the relationship that are working well. Couples therapy can be very helpful for some, but it is not the answer for everyone. If you want to make some aspect of your relationship better, but your spouse or partner is reluctant to participate, you have another option. Consider doing some individual therapy with a couple’s therapist now. Changes you begin to make could bring your partner closer to you and might motivate him or her to reconsider couples work once they experience a benefits for themselves.

To speak to someone about your needs and which therapist might be the best fit for you, please contact Elizabeth Carr, Psy.D., Founder and Senior Adult and Couples Therapist at Kentlands Psychotherapy at 240-252-3349 ext. 801.

Interested in working with a certified Imago, Gottman, or Sex Therapist? We have them!  Call Angela Voegele our Senior Sex and Couples Therapist at 240-252-3349 ext. 808 for details. She even has evening hours!

Wondering how well your relationship is faring?  Compare yourself to the concepts in this article by Dr. Elizabeth Carr in the below link.

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See how your relationship measures up by answering the 4 simple questions asked in this article by Dr. Elizabeth Carr.

Would you like to learn more about the experts who have influenced how we work?

Here are 4 of Neal Sattin’s Relationship Alive Podcast with John Gottman, Harville Hendricks, Sue Johnson, and Dan Wile.

If you enjoy these Podcasts and find them helpful in your own relationship development, PLEASE considering going to iTunes and rating Neal’s excellent show. I’m certain he would appreciate it.

John Gottman

John Gottman

Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

Sue Johnson

Dan Wile