1. Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?

    Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can't make it work. Why should they carry the burden that divorce causes? I've read about “nesting” (where the children remain in the family home…Read More

  2. Is a DBT Group Right for My Daughter?

    Originally Published in the Lakelands Leader in our Laudable life advice column Q:  I have a teenage daughter with significant emotional issues. Her friendships at school can be so short-lived I have a hard time keeping track of who's in and who's out from week to week.  Our relationship is quite volatile as well; there's a lot of storming upstairs and slamming doors or sobbing at the drop of a …Read More

  3. Nervous About Going to Camp

    Originally Published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: We’re planning to send our son to camp for the last two weeks of July and he’s anxious about going. He’s always been a little socially awkward and he’s worried about fitting in and making friends. I don’t want to force him but my husband feels that camp would be good for him to develop his social skill…Read More

  4. What’s My Role in My Daughters Eating Disorder Care?

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life. Q: A few months ago, my daughter was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa. She went through in-patient treatment and is now working with her therapist twice a week. She is also meeting with her pediatrician and nutritionist but I am still worried because she is still very thin and rigid in her eating.  Her team of doc…Read More

  5. Challenges of Caring for an Elderly Parent

    Originally published by the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life. Q: Lately I have been feeling very guilty that I am not able to provide the care that my aging mother needs.  I have had to put her in an assisted living facility because with her progressing dementia I cannot handle caring for her and my own family at the same time any longer. I know that in the long run I am do…Read More

  6. When Your Child Doesn’t Want To Hug Grandma (or other adults)

    Q: My four-year-old child is extremely shy and retreats when relatives try to hug or kiss her at greetings and departures. I’m afraid my daughter is coming across as rude or unloving, or that I look like an overly indulgent parent because I am not making her do it.  Sometimes they say things that suggest I’m a bad parent because I’ve brought up a withdrawn, nervous, or shy child. Should I j…Read More

  7. What Can A Divorce Coach Do For Me?

    Q: I’m in the middle of a difficult divorce. My attorney calls it “high conflict.” I’m six months into this and still have a long way to go. I feel my family and friends are exhausted hearing about it. My attorney suggested a divorce coach. What can a divorce coach do for me that I’m not already getting from my therapist and attorney? A: We’re so glad you asked. Divorce Coaching is a p…Read More

  8. How Effective “Time Outs” Could Save Your Marriage (or Job or Friendships)!

    From Our Lakelands Leader Laudable Life Advice Column Q: My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, but when it comes to certain topics we seem to go from 0-60 in nothing flat, every time. Before we can get to the heart of the matter he's saying, "I can't talk with you about this right now." Or "You're just being irrational." Or even, "I'm tired (or I've had a long day at work), can we talk abo…Read More

  9. When Your Spouse Says They’re Not In Love with You Anymore

    Originally Printed in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: Around Thanksgiving my wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and that she wanted a divorce.  I told her we needed to get through the holidays and I asked her to try to put it out of her mind until the New Year.  I hoped we could make the holidays special and she would forget about it. It didn't happen.…Read More

  10. When ADHD Makes Homework Time Hell

    Q: I cannot get my child to focus on school work. I have tried helping him myself throughout the school year, but he is always distracted with something and cannot sit still for even five minutes. He was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m starting to think that label is taking over his school life and impact his motivation and confidence. How can I best support him and help him to learn to foc…Read More