1. My Wife’s Relationship with a Colleague is Too Close For Comfort

    Originally published in our advice column The Laudable Life in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife has struck up a friendship with a guy at work…she insists it’s completely innocent and yet I’m feeling uncomfortable with it. I have tried to explain this to her, but she brushes off my concerns as paranoia or suggests I’m being controlling or Victorian in my views on male/female relationships. I…Read More

  2. Is It Possible To Save a Marriage After an Affair?

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life  Q: Last month I learned of my spouse’s long-term affair. It's over now and she's extremely remorseful. What in your experience, is a reasonable outcome for me to expect when I'm on the other side of this? Acceptance but continued hurt from it?  Something that we can expect to always have to deal with on some l…Read More

  3. Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?

    Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can't make it work. Why should they carry the burden that divorce causes? I've read about “nesting” (where the children remain in the family home…Read More

  4. Writing a time capsule letter to explain your affair

    Have you been struggling to decide whether or not to tell your partner about a current or former affair? Are you convinced it's probably the right thing to do, but your afraid of the consequences? Have you come close to telling so many times, but in the end you just can't bring yourself to do it? If you are still considering the pros and cons of telling your partner about an infidelity, read here …Read More

  5. Why You Should Be Ready to Confess Your Affair When Asked

    Should you tell your partner about the affair you've had? If you ask a philosophy professor they will likely give you an ethical decision making theory like in this article from Psychology Today. But philosophers work in theory, they don't work with people in crisis. On the other hand, if you ask 100 couples therapists, "Should your client tell their partner about an infidelity or affair?" you mi…Read More

  6. How Effective “Time Outs” Could Save Your Marriage (or Job or Friendships)!

    From Our Lakelands Leader Laudable Life Advice Column Q: My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, but when it comes to certain topics we seem to go from 0-60 in nothing flat, every time. Before we can get to the heart of the matter he's saying, "I can't talk with you about this right now." Or "You're just being irrational." Or even, "I'm tired (or I've had a long day at work), can we talk abo…Read More

  7. When Your Spouse Says They’re Not In Love with You Anymore

    Originally Printed in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: Around Thanksgiving my wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and that she wanted a divorce.  I told her we needed to get through the holidays and I asked her to try to put it out of her mind until the New Year.  I hoped we could make the holidays special and she would forget about it. It didn't happen.…Read More

  8. 6 Tips For When Your Spouse Won’t Go To Therapy With You

    Q: As I look at the start of 2017, I want to see my marriage improve, but my husband doesn't seem to be willing to do much on his end.  He won't go to therapy and he says he's tired of "talking about it all the time."  What can I do on my own that might make things better?  Everything I seem to try gets resentful push-back.  What am I doing wrong? A: Of course it's impossible to say what if …Read More

  9. When Your Family Is a Bunch of Scrooges

    Originally Published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: It's early December and as usual I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the things I needs to get done; school parties, work parties, neighborhood parties, gift shopping, family travel, and decorating the house before we go away for the holiday. It's too much! Worse yet I can't seem to get anyone to help. My husba…Read More

  10. 6 Habits of Healthy Relationships

    At Kentlands Psychotherapy, we offer couples therapy in Gaithersburg, MD, so we are familiar with the habits of people in both healthy and unhealthy relationships. When you are having problems in your relationship, you and your partner may find that having a neutral third party with experience in helping couples improve their relationships may help. In the meantime, here are some healthy habits of…Read More