1. Gottman Relationship Checkup

    The Gottman Method Couples Therapy assessment process is based on over four decades of research with more than 3,000 couples. It includes the Gottman Relationship Checkup which was designed from Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory. Only a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) is authorized by the Gottman Insitute to do the assessment. Angele Voegele is certified to offer th…Read More

  2. Wife Posting On Social Media

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife is constantly posting about our relationship on social media. Everything we do together ends up on Facebook or Instagram. I feel like I'm losing my privacy, and I'm uncomfortable with so much of our lives being online. How do I tell her I want her to stop, or at least cut back on her posts about our relation…Read More

  3. Needing Privacy From Your Spouse

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader Q: I am a stay at home housewife. My husband recently started working from home and is now with me all the time. I feel like I lost my sense of privacy, the ability to have my own free time alone, and my husband is driving me crazy! What should I do? A: Sometimes feeling intruded upon or cramped when a spouse retires o…Read More

  4. Five Signs Someone May Be Lying To You

    Originally published in our Laudable Life advice column in the Lakelands Leader We’ve had a lot of questions about deception lately and how to tell when someone is being dishonest.  Here are a few strategies professionals use to tell fact from fiction. First, let’s look at body language and facial expressions. When someone is lying they may shift their weight causing a rocking motion or pace.…Read More

  5. How to Have a Healthy Timeout

    Question: Whenever I get into a heated argument with my husband he says he “can’t talk about it anymore“ or “I’m impossible.” Sometimes he storms out of the house and drives away. It makes me crazy. I text him asking where he is and when he’s coming back. He says I need to give him space to cool down. How can I get him to stop this? Answer: Breaks, or timeouts, can be healthy during …Read More

  6. My Wife’s Relationship with a Colleague is Too Close For Comfort

    Originally published in our advice column The Laudable Life in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife has struck up a friendship with a guy at work…she insists it’s completely innocent and yet I’m feeling uncomfortable with it. I have tried to explain this to her, but she brushes off my concerns as paranoia or suggests I’m being controlling or Victorian in my views on male/female relationships. I…Read More

  7. Is It Possible To Save a Marriage After an Affair?

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life  Q: Last month I learned of my spouse’s long-term affair. It's over now and she's extremely remorseful. What in your experience, is a reasonable outcome for me to expect when I'm on the other side of this? Acceptance but continued hurt from it?  Something that we can expect to always have to deal with on some l…Read More

  8. Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?

    Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can't make it work. Why should they carry the burden that divorce causes? I've read about “nesting” (where the children remain in the family home…Read More

  9. Why You Should Be Ready to Confess Your Affair When Asked

    Should you tell your partner about the affair you've had? If you ask a philosophy professor they will likely give you an ethical decision making theory like in this article from Psychology Today. But philosophers work in theory, they don't work with people in crisis. On the other hand, if you ask 100 couples therapists, "Should your client tell their partner about an infidelity or affair?" you mi…Read More

  10. How Effective “Time Outs” Could Save Your Marriage (or Job or Friendships)!

    From Our Lakelands Leader Laudable Life Advice Column Q: My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, but when it comes to certain topics we seem to go from 0-60 in nothing flat, every time. Before we can get to the heart of the matter he's saying, "I can't talk with you about this right now." Or "You're just being irrational." Or even, "I'm tired (or I've had a long day at work), can we talk abo…Read More