1. My Wife’s Relationship with a Colleague is Too Close For Comfort

    Originally published in our advice column The Laudable Life in the Lakelands Leader Q: My wife has struck up a friendship with a guy at work…she insists it’s completely innocent and yet I’m feeling uncomfortable with it. I have tried to explain this to her, but she brushes off my concerns as paranoia or suggests I’m being controlling or Victorian in my views on male/female relationships. I…Read More

  2. Is It Possible To Save a Marriage After an Affair?

    Originally published in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column the Laudable Life  Q: Last month I learned of my spouse’s long-term affair. It's over now and she's extremely remorseful. What in your experience, is a reasonable outcome for me to expect when I'm on the other side of this? Acceptance but continued hurt from it?  Something that we can expect to always have to deal with on some l…Read More

  3. Is Nesting a Realistic Option for Our Separation?

    Q: My husband and I have been drifting apart or years. We’ve come close to divorce so many times, but we have three young kids. I can’t imagine sending them back and forth between houses for the remainder of their childhoods. We’re the ones who can't make it work. Why should they carry the burden that divorce causes? I've read about “nesting” (where the children remain in the family home…Read More

  4. Why You Should Be Ready to Confess Your Affair When Asked

    Should you tell your partner about the affair you've had? If you ask a philosophy professor they will likely give you an ethical decision making theory like in this article from Psychology Today. But philosophers work in theory, they don't work with people in crisis. On the other hand, if you ask 100 couples therapists, "Should your client tell their partner about an infidelity or affair?" you mi…Read More

  5. How Effective “Time Outs” Could Save Your Marriage (or Job or Friendships)!

    From Our Lakelands Leader Laudable Life Advice Column Q: My husband and I have a pretty good marriage, but when it comes to certain topics we seem to go from 0-60 in nothing flat, every time. Before we can get to the heart of the matter he's saying, "I can't talk with you about this right now." Or "You're just being irrational." Or even, "I'm tired (or I've had a long day at work), can we talk abo…Read More

  6. When Your Spouse Says They’re Not In Love with You Anymore

    Originally Printed in the Lakelands Leader in our advice column The Laudable Life Q: Around Thanksgiving my wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and that she wanted a divorce.  I told her we needed to get through the holidays and I asked her to try to put it out of her mind until the New Year.  I hoped we could make the holidays special and she would forget about it. It didn't happen.…Read More

  7. 6 Tips For When Your Spouse Won’t Go To Therapy With You

    Q: As I look at the start of 2017, I want to see my marriage improve, but my husband doesn't seem to be willing to do much on his end.  He won't go to therapy and he says he's tired of "talking about it all the time."  What can I do on my own that might make things better?  Everything I seem to try gets resentful push-back.  What am I doing wrong? A: Of course it's impossible to say what if …Read More

  8. 6 Habits of Healthy Relationships

    At Kentlands Psychotherapy, we offer couples therapy in Gaithersburg, MD, so we are familiar with the habits of people in both healthy and unhealthy relationships. When you are having problems in your relationship, you and your partner may find that having a neutral third party with experience in helping couples improve their relationships may help. In the meantime, here are some healthy habits of…Read More

  9. Are You In A Codependent Relationship?

    The term “codependent” is usually used in connection with partners of substance abusers, but it can apply to other people as well. Someone is codependent when they cannot function as an individual, and organize their identity around another person; their self-worth is defined by the approval of their partner. Sometimes, people who are codependent have difficulty recognizing this quality in the…Read More

  10. The Benefits of Couples Therapy

    For people who have never participated in couples therapy, it is typical to feel anxious and uncertain before their first session. At Kentlands Psychotherapy, we have helped many couples in Gaithersburg, MD work through their issues and revitalize their relationships. We understand that you may be hesitant to try couples therapy because it involves talking about emotions that may make you uncomfor…Read More