Once the legal proceedings are over, you might discover that you are on your own to find new ways to co-parent with the person you find most difficult to deal with - someone you would rather avoid simply because it hurts too much to do anything else.  So how do you create a two-home family that minimizes stress for all involved and nurtures the children?  Even when parents are reasonable people, emotions can get the better of you both and cloud your judgment about doing what is right.   

The good news is that you can develop a new way of relating to your former spouse, to begin to think of him or her, not in terms of the past, but rather as your co-parent.

Preserving both parent-child relationships is generally in the best interest of the children, as long as abuse is absent and neither parent has violated his or her rights to be with the child.  The primary reason divorce is so traumatic for a child is the on-going conflict between their mothers and fathers.  Is your child truly shielded from the conflict that was in your home before the divorce or separation?  Unfortunately for many people the answer is “No.”

Fortunately it does not have to be this way.   If you are in this situation, please call today to learn how you, or you and your former spouse together, can create an emotionally safe home life for your children.  It could be the best gift you will ever give them.